A note of dissonance
entered the relationship
Notice the offbeat moves
Note to self: it’s over!
besliter 9/5/2019
Poem was written in response to Medium prompt: Note by Fierce Force
Relationships are a mix of our own projections and experiences and those of others.
I wonder if we can ever see someone clearly, without wishful thinking, assumptions, judgements, beliefs.
And even more importantly, can we have the courageous conversations to check out our perceptions? Or, do we just take action based on them?
In this world of polarized opinions/judgments/beliefs, our handling of dissonance seems even more important. So, what will I do……
I am taking alone time to find words to say how I seem to really think/feel and then find the courage to ask the other person what they are thinking/feeling and tell them how I am thinking/ feeling. I try to listen from my heart. My most difficult relationship seems to be within my own self, where there is so much confusion and conflict between my beliefs and my observations and sense of wanting power to create harmony within and without. I have a great need to be in control for safety and worry when I see things that are a perceived threat to me. The Dali Lama said most people are projecting 99% of the time. I am learning to ask myself if it is me who feels a certain way about the other or if it is the other who I believe feels that way about me. I am learning to trust my own inner being. Being conflict aversive, I shy away from relationships in general as they seem fraught with constant drama. I love my dog the easiest. In the meantime I am getting my piano tuned, that will be one less dissonant item in my life. Persevere. Be calm and carry on. Love and power to you.